Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy Resources
Ember & Bloom Therapy Co.
At Ember & Bloom, we honor relationship diversity and support individuals, couples, and polycules in building relationships that are intentional, ethical, and aligned with their values.
This resource list is designed to support exploration, growth, healing, and communication within polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) relationships.
Foundational Books
Polysecure Workbook
Exercises for building secure attachment in polyamorous relationships
Attached
Attachment theory basics (useful but written with monogamy assumptions—adapt as needed)
Hold Me Tight
Emotionally focused therapy concepts that can be adapted for multiple partners
Communication, Boundaries, & Conflicts
The Jealousy Workbook
Practical exercises for working through jealousy
Love in Abundance
Managing complex emotions in polyamory
Self-Compassion
Building internal safety and resilience
Online Communities & Education
Multiamory Podcast
One of the most respected, practical podcasts on ENM
Normalizing Non-Monogamy
Interviews with people practicing various forms of non-monogamy
Polyamory Weekly
Long-running podcast on polyamory topics
Polysecure
Attachment theory + trauma + polyamory. Essential for understanding emotional safety in ENM.
The Ethical Slut
A foundational, sex-positive guide to autonomy, pleasure, and communication.
More Than Two
Practical frameworks for navigating complex polyamorous dynamics (note: engage critically due to author controversies)
Opening Up
A broad overview of different non-monogamous structures and how to design your own.
Trauma-Informed & Attachment-Focused Resources
Nonviolent Communication
A powerful framework for needs-based communication
Set Boundaries, Find Peace
Clear, accessible boundary-setting strategies
Crucial Conversations
Navigating high-stakes conversations
Difficult Conversations
Tools for repair and understanding
Jealousy, Insecurity, & Emotional Processing
Loving More
Articles, conferences, and community resources
Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition
Legal rights and protections for polyamorous families